My Friday night consisted of a blanket, thin mint smoothie and a new view on marriage proposals thanks to Jackie Francois. Marriage proposal? From the girl who wrote Two Decades of Total Singlehood and relationship status has not changed since? I too have a future (and a wedding board on Pinterest that keeps on growing). Although I am waaays away from that day, if it is even in God’s plan for me, I am constantly thinking about relationships. My daily choices are preparation for these ongoing and future bonds. How can I expect for my friends to strengthen my faith if I am not strengthening theirs? How can I expect to find a man of God if I am not a woman of God?
Lemmetellyou, being a woman is an astonishing thing! The fact that God has trusted us to become tabernacles of life and to bring disciples into this world is WOW. I actually don’t have words. My speechlessness is thanksgiving for the virtue, beauty and dignity bestowed onto all women. Our sacredness is torn down daily. It breaks my heart that our femininity is objectified or even blatantly forgotten by ourselves, people around us and society. Thank the good Lord that there are incredible men out there who intentionally challenge this sad notion.
When a man loves a woman, he has to become worthy of her. The higher her virtue, the more noble her character, the more devoted she is to truth, justice, goodness, the more a man has to aspire to be worthy of her. The history of civilization could actually be written in terms of the level of its women. – Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen
THE HISTORY OF CIVILIZATION. Speechlessness number two has arrived. Ladies, we have to hold ourselves to this standard of grace! If we wish to have worth in the eyes of men, keep on lifting it higher. Not because you are seeking praise but because God is dwelling in you and you deserve to be respected with this truth! Here comes the diamond ring and bended knee in tow. From royalty to the army to Catholics in front of the Blessed Sacrament, getting down on one knee displays humility and reverence. It takes away all pride while supplying an abundance of honor.
This outward gesture wasn’t implemented for fun or a nice stretch and it should never continue only for tradition’s sake. Kneeling is a deliberate expression to pay the necessary amount of respect to another. So much so that inner appreciation does not suffice.
You are worth kneeling for! Without hesitance, if you are a woman, you are entitled to stand in front of a man lowering himself to honor you. Sacrificial love knows how to rightfully supply selfless admiration. Seek nothing less!
Secondly, expect nothing less. If we believe that Jesus is King of Kings, then you are royalty! You are His daughter. You are a princess. You are worthy of the Kingdom! Act like it and I promise you that you will be respected. Men (not boys, not guys, men.) recognize how you hold yourself. (As well as sisters who just lit up my phone approximately 23 seconds ago with this tweet)
Brothers and sisters, it is our duty! It takes both the work of men and women to set the world on fire. Our responsibility is to uphold the value of womanhood and manhood together. This mission is not of this world, but choosing to see ourselves and each other through the eyes of God.
I pray that you are pursued by a man who respects you, not because you have set standards but because he wants those same standards for himself and you alike. I hope that you find a man who surrenders to you but not before Christ. I trust in the timing that we, as seekers of love, must be patient and refrain from stirring up anything until the time is right (Song of Songs 8:4). Maybe your future doesn’t hold this union that I am talking about. Not everyone is called to marriage! We must remember that our first vocation is to grow in holiness and share the Word.
The one who our entire heart belongs to has already proposed. He humbled Himself in the greatest act of love and asks to spend eternity with us. Not “’til death do us part”, but a divine marriage of forever. There is no greater gift!